Men's Work
Beneath the armor there's a life waiting for you.
Free phone consultation. In Sisters, a half hour from Bend and Redmond, or by secure video anywhere in Oregon.
Individual sessions $190, couples sessions $195. A sliding scale is available. Not every clinician takes every plan; we match you with someone who takes yours.
Most men we work with didn't come to therapy easily. They came because something finally cracked: a marriage strained past bearing, a numbness that stopped lifting, an anger that scared them, a success that turned out to be hollow. And almost all of them say some version of the same thing: I don't even know what I feel. I just know this isn't working.
This may be for you if…
- Men who feel numb, restless, or quietly angry and don't know why
- Fathers and partners who keep hurting the people they love with distance or temper
- High performers whose success has stopped meaning anything
- Men navigating divorce, loss, retirement, or the question of what's next
- Men who want the company of other men doing honest work
That's not a personal failing. Most of us were trained out of our inner lives early, taught that feeling is weakness, that need is shameful, that our value is what we produce and provide. The armor worked, for a while. But armor doesn't discriminate: it keeps out grief and it keeps out love, intimacy, aliveness.
Men's work is about taking the armor off deliberately, with support, rather than waiting for life to tear it off. In individual work we use IFS and somatic approaches to get underneath the anger, the drivenness, the checked-out evenings, to the parts of you that have been waiting a long time to be heard. In group work, something else becomes possible: the experience of being real with other men and being respected more for it, not less. For many men that experience alone is revolutionary.
After 28 years of doing this work, we can tell you the far side is worth it. Not a softer life, necessarily. A truer one.
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Coming from Bend, Redmond, or elsewhere in Central Oregon?
Therapists who do this work
Tim Moore, LPC
Founder & Licensed Professional Counselor
In network with Medicare, Regence BlueCross BlueShield, PacificSource, Oregon Health Plan (OHP), Moda, Aetna, UnitedHealthcare, TRICARE
Curious about Men's Work?
Start with a free phone consultation. We'll talk about what's bringing you in and whether this approach is the right fit for you. We call back the same business day, usually within the hour.